A water bearer in India had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole that he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.
For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to his house.Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.
After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you. I have been able to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.
The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers on your side of the path but not on the other pot’s side? That’s because I have always known about your flaw, and I planted flower seeds on your side of the path. Every day while we walk back, you’ve watered them. For two years, I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.”
I have a weakness, it bothers me a lot. A weakness to be accepted, to not be judged, to be loved. They say in my country that the only thing that everyone can love is “Jollof Rice”, especially the ones shared in wedding parties!
I am learning over time, over pain and over mistakes that “I am not Jollof Rice”, it’s a painful learning but it’s making me wiser, stronger and able to help other people realize that they can be free to learn from their mistakes.
What weakness have you been battling with and seeming like you aren’t succeeding? Learn from it, it’s a gradual process, one day you will look back and see that you have crossed the bridge just by putting one step in front of the other.
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